Here are some questions that sprung up after a conversation I had with my honey the other day. He and I live 1200 miles apart and in the near future either I will move to where he goes next or he'll move here to Florida.
An opportunity for an overseas post has opened up and I asked why not try for that job. Apparently, this country (not so far from the US mainland) would infringe upon his personal freedoms & philosophy. His gun ownership and everything that goes along with that.
NO! I am NOT anti-gun, anti-2nd Amendment...if fact I am looking into learning how to fire and get my concealed weapons license.
So, wait a minute. A possible opportunity to go back to doing what he loves and is good at is a no go because his personal freedoms would be curtailed. (Scratches head on this one)
After a few minutes of back and forth as we usually do, I posed the question if I had the opportunity to go somewhere for a dream job but it was a place where some personal freedoms would be curtailed would he go with me or would he risk losing our relationship solely based on this freedom (or others) being curtailed.
His response? He would have to seriously think on that. There are a lot of variables to consider.
Seriously think on that. Uhm. Well ain't that just a kick in the ass.
So, after waiting 22 years (We knew each other back in the day -- long story) to have a chance of a relationship with me he would seriously have to weigh all the variables before coming to a decision?? WHAT??? It would be tough (losing his freedoms or losing me?). He takes his philosophies and personal freedoms very seriously (don't we all?). He is a principled man (one of the reasons I love him).
Me, being a girl of course heard "YES!"
It's very clear. He would choose something over someone. Guns being those things and me being that someone who would get the short end of his "heavy thinking."
I know I have found the love of my life and making some sort of personal sacrifice is a small price to pay to be with him. I even said I would wear a Burka if it meant the difference between us being together or not. Is it such a hard decision to make? Yes, freedom is important but they don't keep you warm at night.
(Btw, as I type this we're on Skype, and he knows I am considering posting this and he is supporting it -- he will undoubtedly break his own NV exile and post his version of the story and retort....if he didn't I would find that suspect. :)
What would you do if faced with the same situation? Choose being with your loved one regardless of the sacrifice or stick to your guns and risk losing a relationship?
Have you ever made a choice and lost a relationship? Do you regret it now?
Is there a right or wrong answer to this situation?
Just interested in reading where everyone's minds are at when it comes down to situations where the rubber meets the road.
(As usual, CoH applies and yes, my Flying Monkey's are on alert)